10 Going on 13

A transition course giving pre-teens the tools, skills and information to navigate and thrive through adolescence

It isn't A QUESTION OF When but How.

That your daughter will soon be off to secondary school or middle school, away from home, into a world of new influences and challenges is a given.
Or reaching the teenage milestone where she navigates new terrains and uncharted paths, making crucial decisions that can influence the trajectory of her life.

What is not a given and doesn't happen by chance is her being equipped and ready to

So, does your pre-teen have clear values and goals to make the right choices as she navigates the uncharted paths of adolescence? Does she have the tools to build a healthy sense of worth? Does she have the tools to deal with bullying or end a toxic friendship?

If you are unsure or your answer is 'not yet', then this course is for you and your pre-teen.

If you are unsure or your answer is 'not yet, then this course is for you and your pre-teen.

Why is this important?​

The ages 10 and 13 are your pre-teen’s first independent and most crucial years. These years herald the beginning of significant changes in her body, brain, and mind.

These changes can inspire curiosity and anxiety in some pre-teens, especially if they do not know what to expect or what is normal. At this time or the onset of puberty, some children question their identity and values

Statistics show that:

80% of girls experience a dip in confidence from the age of 9, which has a significant toll on how they see themselves and the quality of decisions they make.
Girls, more than boys, worry about how they fit in with friends, not doing well in school, fighting in their family, and can trigger drug or alcohol use.
7 in 10 girls believe that they are not good enough or don’t measure up in some way, including their looks, performance in school and relationships with friends and family members.
These issues only deepen in the late teens, hence the need for the right information and support paving the way to growing into a thriving adult.

No child is born ready for the real world; it takes a conscious process of equipping her with the right tools, information and support.

No child is born ready for the real world; it takes a conscious process of equipping her with the right tools, information and support.

No child is born ready for the real world; it takes a conscious process of equipping her with the right tools, information and support.

What the ‘10 going on 13’ Course is about.

‘10 going on 13’ is a transition course that gives pre-teens the tools, information and support they need to navigate and thrive through the adolescent years. It is designed for girls.

Like a compass or GPS, ‘10 going on 13’ will give your pre-teen the tools and skills to navigate new terrains, unchartered paths in school, with friends or strangers and through adolescence. 

10 going on 13 will run over 5 weeks and the girls will have 4 weeks of support in our community. This we do to ensure they are settling into new classes after the holidays and we can support them as needed.

Testimonials (Parents)

Testimonials

What your pre-teen will learn

MODULE 1 - Finding Me

Girls who have a healthy sense of self develop a healthy self-esteem and are able to make decisions from a place of strength. Finding Me explores a pre-teen’s journey to finding who she is, wants to be and how to stay authentic in a diverse world; whether it’s in school or. online.

In this class, girls will learn the different ways we are shaped and how our identities are formed. More so, how they begin to build their own identity through the choices they make.

MODULE 2 - It's time for big changes

Girls not only go through physical changes but also social, mental and psychological changes. This class explores how and why these changes occur and give tools to navigate these changes.

We will also explore how teens’ brains change during adolescent years and how this influences their decisions and choices. In this class, girls will also listen to experts dive into how their body is changing, personal hygiene and the impact of social media on body image. 

In this module, girls will be introduced into age appropirate sexuality education; body safety, sexual identity, managing emotons and making healthy choices.

MODULE 3 - Building my Values and Identity

Once your pre-teen leaves the door off to school, she is exposed to several influences in class, school and even in the media. How does she draw the line? This class teaches the meaning and importance of our values and how they shape our identity and choices now and in the future.

The module also explores the different values you share with your pre-teen as a family with a goal of reiterating your shared values and grounding her core.

MODULE 4 - In my corner (building healthy friendships)

New terrain signify ew associaltions and friendships and both impact on girls identity, choices and character.  Having learnt about values, girls now learn the tools needed to maked informed decisions around friendships.

In this course, girls will learn what real friendships are, how to choose their friends, dealing with peer pressure, how to say No, know when it’s time to leave a friendship and more.

MODULE 5 - How to deal with Social Problems (Bullying, Toxic Friendships, Aggression etc).

This module gives your preteen the tools to handle social problems young people face in friendships. She will learn the 3 steps to dealing with bullying, how to identify and handle toxic friendships, friendship drama and more.

MODULE 6 - Leading Myself

The hallmark of adolescent years and the dream of every parent is that their pre-teen is able to hold their own, make good decisions and be responsible.

Leading Myself introduces your pre-teen the critical tools such as time management, goal setting, prioritising actualization among others.

By the end of this module, your pre-teen will be more organised and equipped to achieve set goals and make informed decisions

 

Module 7 - Navigating technology use and social media.

In an unprecedented way, social media and technology now influences children’s choices and perspectives. Still the ability to navigate how it influences them lies within them and the tools they have to.

This module introduces your pre-teen to the world of tech and media and also gives them these tools to build a healthy relationship and boundaries around technology and the media.

we know You've raised a good girl. now,let's help you get her equipped. then she can navigate the real-world, now and later by herself.

Our Signature Design Framework

The 10 going on 13 Summer Stream is a 7 module course, both recorded and live class. It is built around our signature design framework at Brighter Girls. Each participant has access to

Pre-Course Assessment

Small class to facilitate safe space, personal experience and adequate hand holding

Life skills classes with Lead Coach and other Experts where core tools are taught

Mentor Sessions to facilitate further learning from inspiring individuals

Actionable Worksheets and Assignments

Parent and Daughter Engagement

After Course Parent Feedback

By the end of this course, your pre-teen

Would have discovered themselves better, learning and using the right vocabulary or words which builds their self-esteem and sense of worth.

Will understand how much changes are going on in their bodies, how to grow and adapt to these changes.

Will have developed a sense of self-confidence, body confidence and self worth that comes from within, authenticity and her true values.

Will learn what to expect rom secondary school and if already in one, how to navigate the new phase and system.

Will know what values are; state the ones you share as a family and how values guide us into making healthy choices.

Will be able to take responsibility for her growth and life.

Will learn what healthy friendship is and how to build healthy boundaries.

Will learn social tools that helps her deal with social problems such as bullying, pear pressure, FOMO etc.

Will learn about choices, responsibilities and consequences.

Will learn they and their parents are still a team and how they can continue to build a healthy relationship with their parents as they grow older.

Will know how to ask for help when in need.

And lots more...

Testimonials

Why I designed this course.

While you still make the big decisions for your child, the simple everyday choices that shape them are now up to them, especially if they are far away from home. As a Teens Expert and Coach of over 15 years, girls tell me what goes on in school, in the bathroom, online, and on their phones, where no one sees but them and their friends.

Do you remember telling your mum or dad everything that happened in your school or classroom when you were a teen?

Maybe not. With your busy schedule, it’s even more challenging. 

The girls don’t say it all as well. But trust me, a lot happens that may shock you.

One day, as I sat with the girls in our Girls Circles program at Brighter Girls, they started gisting me about what happens in their schools and homes.

I honestly was disturbed at how much pre-teens were already exposed to, which led me to research the impact and influence of secondary school on young intakes.

I realised that the secondary is different from the safe space that primary school or the home gives our kids. Yet, there are no conscious tools provided to our pre-teens to navigate their new space and experience.

Apart from changes in their bodies, most pre-teens experience their first cases of being bullied, friendship drama, unhealthy competition, exposure to sexually explicit words, context or situation, and more.

Many girls say, ‘I found out about lesbianism and pornography in my first year in secondary school, but I didn’t share it with my parents.

I’ve also found many parents struggle down the line with their teenage daughters because they missed the pre-teenage transitional phase and haven’t learnt how to meet their pre-teen’s needs.

We want to make the journey easier for them and you, so we built the ’10 going on 13′ Course for girls (call us if you’re raising boys).

10 going on 13 Course will

Give your pre-teen confidence to speak for herself, navigate friendship drama, peer influence and take the initiative without being prompted when you are away from her

Help you avoid the painful positions many parents find themselves in when their teens fall into the pitfalls that come with navigating the adolescent years

Take you from a parent constantly worried about how your pre-teen will fare when she’s away from you to being assured and at peace.

Take you out of the statistics of parents who wait to take out the fire instead of preventing it

Stop you from that nagging question of "Have I done enough?"

What this Course is not to

HOW CLASSES WILL RUN

Classes will run via Zoom Video Call for 60mins -90 mins, 3x weekly; Mondays and the weekends This includes 2 sessions of classes with Lead Coach or Professional expert and a day for check in and review assignments.

Girls will be in a support group through the course duration. (this works if they have access to a phone otherwise, email communication will be available with Ms Fola for both parent or child

Classes will be interactive with stretch routines, discussion, games and others; this is to actively engage students and use play as a tool of learning.

Students will get worksheets and take-home assignments including those they will engage their parents on.

What your pre-teen will learn

Girls who have a healthy sense of self develop a healthy self esteem and are able to make decisions from a place of strength. Finding Me explores a pre-teen’s journey to finding who she is, wants to be and how to stay authentic in a diverse world; whether it’s in school or online. In this class, girls will learn the different ways we are shaped and how our identities are formed. More so, how they begin to build their own identity through the choices they make.
Girls not only go through physical changes but also social, mental and psychological changes. This class explores how and why these changes occur and give tools to navigate these changes. We will also explore how teens’ brains change during adolescent years and how this influences their decisions and choices. In this class, girls will also listen to experts dive into how their body is changing, personal hygiene and the impact of social media on body image.
Once your pre-teen leaves the door off to school, she is exposed to several influences in class, school and even in the media. How does she draw the line? This class teaches the meaning and importance of our values and how they shape our identity and choices now and in the future. The module also explores the different values you share with your pre-teen as a family with a goal of reiterating your shared values and grounding her core.
Girls spend a huge amount of time with friends and build their identity around their association. This infers how important it is to navigate the friendship waters. In this course, girls will learn what real friendships are, how to choose their friends, dealing with peer pressure, how to say No, know when it’s time to leave a friendship and more.
The hallmark of adolescent years and the dream of every parent is that their pre-teen is able to hold their own, make good decisions and be responsible. Leading Myself introduces your pre-teen the critical tools such as time management, goal setting, prioritising actualization among others. By the end of this module, your pre-teen will be more organised and equipped to achieve set goals and make informed decisions
In an unprecedented way, social media and technology now influences children’s choices and perspectives. Still the ability to navigate how it influences them lies within them and the tools they have to. This module introduces your pre-teen to the world of tech and media and also gives them these tools to build a healthy relationship and boundaries around technology and the media.

No child is born ready for the real world; it takes a conscious process of equipping her with the right tools, information and support.

By the end of this course, your pre-teen

  • Would have discovered themselves better, learning and using the right vocabulary or words which builds their self-esteem and sense of worth.
  • Will understand how much changes are going on in their bodies, how to grow and adapt to these changes.
  • Will learn what to expect rom secondary school and if already in one, how to navigate the new phase and system
  • Will be able to take responsibility for her growth and life.
  • Will learn social tools that helps her deal with social problems such as bullying, pear pressure, FOMO etc
  • Will know how to ask for help when in need.
  • Will learn they and their parents are still a team and how they can continue to build a healthy relationship with their parents as they grow older.
  • Will have developed a sense of self-confidence, body confidence and self worth that comes from within, authenticity and her true values
  • Will know what values are; state the ones you share as a family and how values guide us into making healthy choices.
  • Will learn what healthy friendship is and how to build healthy boundaries
  • Will learn about choices, responsibilities and consequences.
  • And lots more.

MEET THE LEAD COACH.

My name is Adefolashade, called Fola for short and I am the Lead Coach and Founder of Brighter Girls Life Initiative. I am a US Certified Girl Empowerment Coach, Trained Youth Mentor and a member of the Women Empowering Girls Network (WEGN), Dallas, Texas, USA and Certified in Youth First Aid Mental Health USA.

I’m certified to teach the “Girl Meets World curriculum “of the Girl Leadership Inc taught at the Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy for Girls, South Africa.

My dream to work with girls started as a teen myself which led me to speak to girls in secondary schools within my community and went on to co-found a Girl organisation in university where I organised programs centred on faith and girl empowerment. I have worked in the teen space for over 20 years and with thousands of girls in different capacities.

I was a certified ‘good girl’ growing up as a teen, but got the rude shock while ‘adulting’ as I realized I didn’t have the tools I needed to navigate through real life and make the right decisions for me.

Tools give you the ‘what, why and how’ and with that, you can navigate different situations.

I know a lot of parents like the good girl/child who obeys rules, makes terrific grades and generally never troubles them, but that is not the same with a child who has the tools, informed, consciously on a journey of growth, change and is engaging requisite tools as he or she makes decisions or choices.

This is where I come in

I use the power and effectiveness of tools, stories, play and safe spaces to engage teens, so they are well-informed, equipped and ready to live consciously. This doesn’t make them perfect, but makes them live awake and deliberate as they make choices through their adolescence years. Through my classes, your pre-teens will meet themselves, get the right tools which are the bedrock of other learnings they will experience.

frequently asked questions

10 going on 13 is 6 weeks course and an additional  one month support course. 

All classes are online. Nonetheless, we have included 2 in person interactive sessions for students based in Lagos due to popular demand from parents who want some in- person experience.

We hold separate classes for a concise number of boys. Call 0809 922 2234. We hold sacred our promise of safe spaces and through engagements. We understand how diverse the social needs of boys and girls differ and therefore choose to hold spaces that make girls engage wholly. The same approach is engaged in boys only class.

Our Offer for 20 girls only

Bonus

After Workshop One Month Check in our community for pre-teens I bloom

pricing

Original Price

₦100,000
  • Full Access to 7 Modules of life-changing content
  • A small-sized, fun and engaging class to facilitate a personal experience
  • Get Clear tools that help your child navigate the pre-teen years, teen years and years beyond.
  • Get Actionable Worksheets and Take-Home Assignments.
  • Get Access to Ms Fola Fadeyi, our ED and other Teens Expert.
  • Get Access to our Guest Mentors from different walks of life
  • Attend 2 In-person classes for further engagement and fun experience
  • 1 Group Parent After Workshop Feedback Session
  • Bonus - One Month Free Membership at I Bloom Pre-teens Community
  • ₦100,000

Work with me One on One

₦150,000
  • Work with me One on One
  • Full Access to 7 Modules of life-changing content
  • A small-sized, fun and engaging class to facilitate a personal experience
  • Get Clear tools that help your child navigate the pre-teen years, teen years and years beyond.
  • Get Actionable Worksheets and Take-Home Assignments.
  • Get Access to Ms Fola Fadeyi, our ED and other Teens Expert.
  • Get Access to our Guest Mentors from different walks of life
  • Attend 2 In-person classes for further engagement and fun experience
  • Personalised sessions with pre-teen and parent
  • One Month After - Workshop Support
  • Bonus - One Month Free Membership at I-Bloom Pre-teens Community
  • ₦150,000

Original Price

₦100,000
  • Original price
  • 6 Modules of life-changing content.
  • Small-sized, fun and engaging classes to facilitate a personal experience
  • Clear tools that help your child navigate the pre-teen years, teen years and years beyond.
  • Actionable Worksheets and Take-Home Assignments.
  • Access to Ms Fola Fadeyi, our ED and Teen expert.
  • Guest Mentors from different walks of life
  • Support class during and after the Course
  • 2 In-person classes
  • ₦100,000

One on one

₦150,000
  • One on one with coach Fola

For further enquiries or to get a group or siblings discount. Call 0809 922 2234

waiting for your child to fall into or learn from mistakes can be more expensive. equippping them ahead is always better and safer. don't be sorry.