So, does your pre-teen have clear values and goals to make the right choices as she navigates the uncharted paths of adolescence? Does she have the tools to build a healthy sense of worth? Does she have the tools to deal with bullying or end a toxic friendship?
The ages 10 and 13 are your pre-teen’s first independent and most crucial years. These years herald the beginning of significant changes in her body, brain, and mind.
These changes can inspire curiosity and anxiety in some pre-teens, especially if they do not know what to expect or what is normal. At this time or the onset of puberty, some children question their identity and values
Like a compass or GPS, ‘10 going on 13’ will give your pre-teen the tools and skills to navigate new terrains, unchartered paths in school, with friends or strangers.
Girls who have a healthy sense of self develop a healthy self-esteem and are able to make decisions from a place of strength. Finding Me explores a pre-teen’s journey to finding who she is, wants to be and how to stay authentic in a diverse world; whether it’s in school or. online.
In this class, girls will learn the different ways we are shaped and how our identities are formed. More so, how they begin to build their own identity through the choices they make.
Girls not only go through physical changes but also social, mental and psychological changes. This class explores how and why these changes occur and give tools to navigate these changes.
We will also explore how teens’ brains change during adolescent years and how this influences their decisions and choices. In this class, girls will also listen to experts dive into how their body is changing, personal hygiene and the impact of social media on body image.
Once your pre-teen leaves the door off to school, she is exposed to several influences in class, school and even in the media. How does she draw the line? This class teaches the meaning and importance of our values and how they shape our identity and choices now and in the future.
The module also explores the different values you share with your pre-teen as a family with a goal of reiterating your shared values and grounding her core.
Girls spend a huge amount of time with friends and build their identity around their association. This infers how important it is to navigate the friendship waters.
In this course, girls will learn what real friendships are, how to choose their friends, dealing with peer pressure, how to say No, know when it’s time to leave a friendship and more.
This module gives your preteen the tools to handle social problems young people face in friendships. She will learn the 3 steps to dealing with bullying, how to identify and handle toxic friendships, friendship drama and more.
The hallmark of adolescent years and the dream of every parent is that their pre-teen is able to hold their own, make good decisions and be responsible.
Leading Myself introduces your pre-teen the critical tools such as time management, goal setting, prioritising actualization among others.
By the end of this module, your pre-teen will be more organised and equipped to achieve set goals and make informed decisions
In an unprecedented way, social media and technology now influences children’s choices and perspectives. Still the ability to navigate how it influences them lies within them and the tools they have to.
This module introduces your pre-teen to the world of tech and media and also gives them these tools to build a healthy relationship and boundaries around technology and the media.
The 10 going on 13 Summer Stream is a 7 module course, both recorded and live class. It is built around our signature design framework at Brighter Girls. Each participant has access to
While you still make the big decisions for your child, the simple everyday choices that shape them are now up to them, especially if they are far away from home. As a Teens Expert and Coach of over 15 years, girls tell me what goes on in school, in the bathroom, online, and on their phones, where no one sees but them and their friends.
Do you remember telling your mum or dad everything that happened in your school or classroom when you were a teen?
Maybe not. With your busy schedule, it’s even more challenging.
The girls don’t say it all as well. But trust me, a lot happens that may shock you.
One day, as I sat with the girls in our Girls Circles program at Brighter Girls, they started gisting me about what happens in their schools and homes.
I honestly was disturbed at how much pre-teens were already exposed to, which led me to research the impact and influence of secondary school on young intakes.
I realised that the secondary is different from the safe space that primary school or the home gives our kids. Yet, there are no conscious tools provided to our pre-teens to navigate their new space and experience.
Apart from changes in their bodies, most pre-teens experience their first cases of being bullied, friendship drama, unhealthy competition, exposure to sexually explicit words, context or situation, and more.
Many girls say, ‘I found out about lesbianism and pornography in my first year in secondary school, but I didn’t share it with my parents.
I’ve also found many parents struggle down the line with their teenage daughters because they missed the pre-teenage transitional phase and haven’t learnt how to meet their pre-teen’s needs.
We want to make the journey easier for them and you, so we built the ’10 going on 13′ Course for girls (call us if you’re raising boys).
10 going on 13 isn’t just a confidence workshop; it is a dive into a phase of your child’s life and delivers over ten core skills such as Self Awareness, Confidence, Decision-Making Skills, Authenticity, Friendship Skills, Building Boundaries, Emotional Intelligence, personal agency, time management and more.
My name is Adefolashade, called Fola for short and I am the Lead Coach and Founder of Brighter Girls Life Initiative. I am a US Certified Girl Empowerment Coach, Trained Youth Mentor and a member of the Women Empowering Girls Network (WEGN), Dallas, Texas, USA and Certified in Youth First Aid Mental Health USA.
I’m certified to teach the “Girl Meets World curriculum “of the Girl Leadership Inc taught at the Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy for Girls, South Africa.
My dream to work with girls started as a teen myself which led me to speak to girls in secondary schools within my community and went on to co-found a Girl organisation in university where I organised programs centred on faith and girl empowerment. I have worked in the teen space for over 20 years and with thousands of girls in different capacities.
I was a certified ‘good girl’ growing up as a teen, but got the rude shock while ‘adulting’ as I realized I didn’t have the tools I needed to navigate through real life and make the right decisions for me.
Tools give you the ‘what, why and how’ and with that, you can navigate different situations.
I know a lot of parents like the good girl/child who obeys rules, makes terrific grades and generally never troubles them, but that is not the same with a child who has the tools, informed, consciously on a journey of growth, change and is engaging requisite tools as he or she makes decisions or choices.
This is where I come in
I use the power and effectiveness of tools, stories, play and safe spaces to engage teens, so they are well-informed, equipped and ready to live consciously. This doesn’t make them perfect, but makes them live awake and deliberate as they make choices through their adolescence years. Through my classes, your pre-teens will meet themselves, get the right tools which are the bedrock of other learnings they will experience.
We hold separate classes for a concise number of boys. Call 0809 922 2234. We hold sacred our promise of safe spaces and through engagements. We understand how diverse the social needs of boys and girls differ and therefore choose to hold spaces that make girls engage wholly. The same approach is engaged in boys only class.